Sober Saturday: Deal with It


I saw this the other day and thought “Wow!” It’s one of those simple truths that sounds so profound when you’re in a place of wanting to move forward but can’t figure out what’s holding you back….


Yes, Jamie. Your weaknesses.

Just being completely honest about the situation I can think of times that I’ve done something wrong and I immediately think about or bring up all the good I do. I’ve identified that it is a defense mechanism because I dont want anyone to take anything from me. But the truth is, if I don’t deal with some of my flaws and improve I will be remembered for the bad instead if the good.

The same is true with addiction.

Unfortunately some of the BEST people struggle with addiction.

The greatest musicians, mothers and fathers, husbands or wives, etc have something that just literally drains the good out of them. I believe that is why so many are SO frustrated… Because you know what’s there. You know what’s being neglected and wasted for a terrible habit. If we are not careful to deal with our demons they will conquer us and all the good will be completely wasted.

So deal with the bad so you can enjoy the good!! Live a good life and leave a good legacy. It is definitely  a process but I think as long as we recognize that having some good doesn’t make the bad irrelevant and actually address those issues head on- we’ll be fiiiine!

Deal with it!

Knowledge for Success

Hey guys! I recently received an email from Bob Clary, the Community Manager at Webucator (An online Training Company) explaining a hot new campaign they are running this month and inviting me to participate. He asked me one question… A question I recently had to ask myself. He wanted to know what I thought the most valuable workplace skill is or the one piece of knowledge that could help you be most successful. Although I immediately knew what my answer would be, it has taken me a while to get this post written. I had to become comfortable with my answer AND putting the answer into words in a way that people would “get it.” I know I’ll have some people visit the site that  don’t usually stop by (Hey y’all!) and I just want to let you know that I’m truly myself when writing. I sometimes use slang and my punctuation isn’t always correct but my heart is in each post and I hope you can feel that. Now, in order for me to answer this I have to tell you a story. It’s a short one so don’t get your panties in a bunch.

I’ve worked in Customer Service my entire working career and I’ve always loved it. I mean anything with customer service… Retail, banking, box offices for theater… Anything that allows me to interact with people really draws me in. Recently I was working in hospitality and though it was something I loved and did extremely well, I grew tired of it. I love working. I love meeting people and inspiring them and knowing that when they go back home they’ll have a piece of me. I was great at referring people to the programs and helping with scores… Even training people! Even until my last day I got great reviews with the guests. And even with all of that I eventually begin to hate going to work. All day I thought about how bad I really just didn’t want to go. It got to a point that I was maxed out on the lack of challenge it had become. I felt I’d stopped growing and not only was my growth stagnant, I began to feel like I was moving backwards. Dragging myself out the door each day to a job I hated and getting there to deal with all of the normal things I’d been dealing with working at a hotel, but with a completely different attitude. My excellent customer service was just okay, the referrals became few and far between, and my patience was SHOT! And that bothered me to no end. I don’t like not being the best y’all! No sir! And this isn’t the first time this has happened. This wasn’t the first time I was in a position that I can do extremely well but wasn’t happy. After a lot of thought and prayer I decided to resign. It was a HARD thing to do but it had to be done.

I had to dig deep and find out what made me click in a good way and that, is the answer to his question.


I don’t know about you but I do a lot better in positions that I feel like are adding to my ultimate purpose in life. Something that you can look back on in a year or two and know that although you weren’t in your dream position, you didn’t waste your time putting your all into something that wouldn’t even teach you the skills necessary to EVER reach that goal. When you’re truly doing what you love doing you will always put more into it. You’ll always sacrifice more and be okay with that sacrifice. It’s amazing how I’ve picked up on clues to what I really love to do too!

Think you can guess it?

I love people. I love helping people and inspiring them, giving them what they need to go on. An even though my job at the hotel didn’t work out it gave me a glimpse into how much I can impact someone’s life in a positive way in a very short amount of time. Thinking back I realize that all of my jobs and even this Blog have given me that same glimpse. They’ve prepared me for this exact moment in my life… The moment that I realize that my purpose is what drives me. And it’s always been there… Giving me clues to what exactly it is and allowing me to realize that I can leave a piece of myself inside of someone’s heart. And allowing me to realize that the love of leaving a piece of myself with someone is what really makes MY heart beat.

So my biggest piece of advice would be to pay attention. Pay attention to the common denominator in the things that interest you at work, home, with friends, etc. Being able to go to work and give it your all knowing that you’re winning too will make you work that much harder. You’ll want to learn more and more when others are okay with the minimum required knowledge. You’ll go in early and leave late without complaint. You’ll be on time, dressed appropriately, with a fun, professional demeanor. You’ll be the PERFECT CANDIDATE! After the week it took me to write this post I still can’t quite put into words how valuable working in your purpose is.  I can’t explain the satisfaction you get from doing what you were created to do and how it’ll make all of the other required skills a breeze for you.

I know this post is probably a lot different from the kind of material that is normally received and I can’t say I’m upset about it. I just hope it helps someone! I want to thank Mr. Bob and Webucator for reaching out to me and giving me an opportunity to share my point of view. Thanks so much. Now, I’ll end the way it began… With a question.

What’s your purpose?

Holiday Wear

Hello my loves!! How have you been? I’ve been fine… It’s been a long time coming so I’m excited to say that I’ve got an  OOTD for you. I spent this past weekend stocking up on things from Trader Joes (because we don’t have one in New Orleans… BOOOO!!) and scavenging Christmas tree yards and Target in preparation for Christmas. Because I’m always working I rarely get to actually wear any of my clothes so I wanted to throw on something cute but comfy…

Here’s what I came up with…


Simple… But cute. Here are the details…


Striped dress- Forever21

Wool cardigan- GAP

Panama Hat- Urban Outfitters (Staring at Stars)

Thigh High Boots- Nordstrom (BP Holgate Tall Boot)

Accessories- Forever21

Thats it! The sassiness comes standard in Leo women, I hear.

What are you wearing this Holiday season?

Seahawks, Broncos, burgers, wings & a SUPER weekend for Trafficking

Seahawks, Broncos, burgers, wings & a SUPER weekend for Trafficking

Hey guys!! I hope all of you are enjoying your weekend and the festivities that come with a big game like the Super Bowl. Keep in mind that large sports events are like gold for traffickers!! Be aware!!

Some of us regular folks are out shopping for burgers, wings, decorations, and gear for parties.., but some are out shopping for people to trap into a form of slavery that is much bigger and closer to home than many people know and believe. Some are looking to purchase someone- probably a child- for a night of “fun”

People are not for sale!! Remember, trafficking is the second largest organized crime so it can happen to any of us!!

If you suspect anything and would like to report it OR if you are in this situation there are many services to help! Don’t be afraid to use these services…

Here is a hotline that you can call and/or text





Have fun and be safe! MUAH!

I’m saying though… Don’t kill the vibe!!

I'm saying though... Don't kill the vibe!!

Hello my loves!! I know, I know… It’s been a while but I’m going to keep it short and sweet today and talk your ear off in my video I’m thinking about recording later.

We all know ourselves well enough to know when we are having a “I’m just not feeling it” day… So, if you haven’t reached the stage in your growth that you’re able to just put on a happy face on those days then eliminate yourself from groups or social settings where your Negative Nancy attitude will get on everybody’s nerves. Sometimes we just need a moment with ourselves to think things over or to pray!  The more time you spend with yourself the more you will be able to identify exactly what it is that causes you to have a negative energy and those situations can be eliminated until you get past them. If all of this is too much for you right now then then just do what the quote says and shut up! You’re bringing everyone down with your negativity and for me, it’s a bridge burner. I have to surround myself with people who will add to my journey in a positive way because I deal with SO much already that I don’t need anyone in my circle that is going to add problems or negativity that will ultimately weigh me down. Not happening! Spread love today… You never know what someone is going through. Muah!

No more tomorrows…



Hey guys! It’s been a while…

If you’re like me you’re a busy person… Always trying to figure out a better way to juggle ALL of the things you want to do. Happy dreaming your dreams but more happy when you see yourself accomplish things. I just want to encourage you today… You may have days that you are tired, worn out, discouraged, etc…

Trust me I feel you!

Keep moving! Keep pushing! Keep reaching! We are equipped with everything we need to make the desires of our hearts come true. (Even the secret desires) God hears you when you pray and even when you think! No secrets hunny! Lol. He will give you the strength, the drive, dedication, finances, ride across town, or WHATEVER you need. Stay encouraged even if you have to encourage yourself and stay on track to your goals. ESPECIALLY on the days when you dont feel like it. There may be a million people in your city that want the same things you want but your dedication to it even when you dont feel like it is what will set you apart! Today is the best day to get started… Tomorrow they could be done casting for the part. Tomorrow they could have already found a lead dancer. And you could gain 5 more pounds this week putting that diet off until “next Monday”… Lol. You have to ride the bus and it’s raining outside? You better buy some cute rain boots! It’s too hot? Find some shade and a cold bottle of water and quit letting things you will NEVER be able to control keep you from getting whats yours. Go get it TODAY! No more tomorrows ya’ll…   Hugs, kisses, and a whole bunch of love- jnb

Impossible things are happening EVERY DAY!!

Impossible things are happening EVERY DAY!!

Hello my loves!! So… I’m sure you’re wondering what’s up with the Cinderella picture. Lol. Well… I was nothing short of obsessed with this movie when it came out and every time I watch it I fall in love again. Aside from the AMAZING voices (RIP to the best fairy God mother EVER Whitney) this fairy tale has so much to say about how quickly the impossible can become possible. And the biggest issue with Cinderella was actually taking that first step and going to the ball… when she got there she was able to work her magic. Lol. I know this may seem a little juvenile for some… but I think it’s important to remember the things that evoked imagination and dreams and wishes in us when we were kids!! Lol. You know when you were a kid NOTHING was impossible. If you wanted to be something through dreams and imagining and a few other creative tricks and toys… you were it! Its really still that simple. It is! If there is something that you’ve been wanting to do… do it! You deserve everything you’ve ever wanted and you already have “everything you need to be anything…” Go for it. All the right people will support you! And the others… well they can have a seat! And quickly! Good day loves…

Poppin Tags: To be thrifted or not thrifted… That is the question.

Poppin Tags: To be thrifted or not thrifted... That is the question.

Hello my loves and Happy Sunday!! I hope you had a great week… Its SUNday FUNday… the day the Poppin Tags game begins!! This will more than likely be the game every Sunday but TRUST it will always have a spin put on it!! (That’s just me! 🙂 )

Okay… so both of these pictures are during French Quarter Festival. The one on the left is from last year and the one on the right is from this year. The items in question are the skirt on the left and the dress on the right. FIRST, tell me which item was purchased at a thift shop and then how much you think it costs. Whoever guesses closest to the amount AND the correct thrifted item WINS!! Check back later this week to see what the prize will be. Go…