Friends with Purpose

Hey My Loves! There’s a new tab here on jamiedreamsbig.com and it’s all about doing what it takes to maintain friendships. The word friend can be used so loosely sometimes so some may not understand this… But, if your “friends” are true friends you want to hold on to them. “Friends with Purpose” is about doing what it takes to make sure your friendship is purposeful… Girls nights, book clubs, traveling, volunteering, and most definitely praying among many other things. We will soon be hosting events and all that jazz but for now feel free to join in on one or many of our initiatives to help the world and continue to nurture true friendships

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Some of you may be familiar with our prayer call “Prayer and the City” a spin off of “Sex and the City” where we still have all the regular girl talk that is necessary but we also engage in prayer for our friendships and about some of the struggles that sometimes arise. Make sure you’re following our Social Media accounts so you’ll know when the next call is…

Our next initiative is EXTREMELY important. We are absolutely outraged by the water crisis in Flint, Michigan and definitely want to join in the efforts to get some clean water to these families. All week we will be taking donations!! If you want to help out but want to make sure that the help is received and is received in a timely matter you can absolutely trust that we will be getting them this water.

To join in our efforts please head over to PayPal by pressing the button below and when making a donation specify “Water for Flint” in the notes or comments section.

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Thanks so much! We too often take things like water for granted and your contribution will definitely be a great expression of your gratitude.

 

 

There’s something wrong with your “Happy”…

Good Morning Loves!

Oh… and, Happy Monday!

Some of you may be looking at the title wondering “What could this possibly be about…” Lol…

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I have a question for you…..

How happy are you if it only takes something extremely small or minor to deflate that happiness? Yes YOU! The one whose morning is ruined because someone cut you off on the interstate… You too Mr. “I left my phone at home…” And even the one that is mad simply because “It’s Monday” Lol. I understand! But, there are honestly bigger problems in life…

There’s something wrong with your happy, Honey… The biggest problem perhaps, is that it’s not JOY!

Joy isn’t temporary… It isn’t based on outward circumstances but instead focuses on things like spiritual experiences, caring for others, gratitude, peace, and thankfulness.  So today and everyday following let’s try to build our emotions and/or feelings on something more solid than how people treat us, how work is, OR what day it is. Find some Joy, protect it, and enjoy life! And Mondays… Lol.

I Love You.

Protect your Happy!

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Hey my loves!! Just stopping by with some Monday morning inspiration to jump start your week…

I am really learning the value of not only my solitude, but what I am capable of completing in solitude when my circle of people steer clear of negativity. A lot goes on in our minds… it’s where we as humans operate. So if you are surrounded by negative people when you do finally get a moment to yourself all you can do is either reflect on how they’ve pissed you off or try to relax your mind because let’s face it- negativity is draining! Let’s do ourselves a favor and surround ourselves with people who are in pursuit of not only success or money, etc., but JOY! When you truly find joy or are at least in pursuit of it, you realize that nothing is worth sacrificing that joy for. Not gossip, not arguments, not even money!

Find your happy and protect it by surrounding yourself with people that want to protect theirs just as much.

Love ya,

JNB

 

Motivation for the week ahead…

Sometimes it can be so hard waiting for things to move and happen in our lives… And it can be so easy to assume that people are better off and thriving so much more in their lives than we are. But, we don’t know what they are going through or what they went through to get where they are!

God has provided a grace for our exact situation and with that grace comes the strength, patience, drive, etc to do things on a level that directly coincides with the Destiny he has given you. Let’s try to focus more on what we were given so that when we are faced with the opportunity to do Destiny work or the opportunity to live our Dreams we aren’t trying to carry them out by imitating the people around us that are operating in the grace God gave THEM. It won’t work! What God has given you is perfect for your Dreams and every thing, every idea inside of you just waiting to happen. Let’s finish this year off strong… walking in the unique grace God has placed on each of our lives.

 

Muah!

 

Sober Saturday: Kyle’s Story

My name is Kyle and I’m and alcoholic.  If only I knew how important that statement would become in my life ten years ago, I could have saved myself from so much destruction and pain.  Since the age of 16 I have used drugs and alcohol regularly – at first to temporarily escape the frustrations and insecurities of adolescence, but eventually I found myself having to use just to get out of bed in the morning.  From the second I woke up my whole existence became centered around getting loaded, every thought, every action, every word had the ulterior motive of getting myself as far away from sober as possible.  I had been entirely consumed by addiction at the age of 20.  Completely oblivious to the agony in and around me, I continued to reach new lows the following years, crossing lines I never imagined I would.

Meanwhile, I had been grievously wounding my family who had done nothing but love and support me unconditionally since birth.  Really good people.  It started with little lies and manipulations to try and save face.  But soon enough however, I was raiding medicine cabinets only to google a medications potential of giving me a buzz. The results usually showed that my loved ones were dealing with some serious health issues, but instead of being concerned for their wellbeing, my take away was, “well this won’t do anything for me… Now which way was the label facing again?”

I would regularly find myself thumbing through my mom’s wallet, deciding how much money I could take without her noticing.  While recovering from a surgery, she would rely on me to go the store to get us groceries which I would gladly do because that meant that she would give me her debit card which I could use at the ATM on the way back.  While sleeping, she would shriek in pain do to the surgery, but even that wasn’t enough for me to not steal her pain medication any chance I could.  The other members of my family received equally terrible and dishonest behavior from me.

I always thought myself one of the good guys, someone who would positively impact the lives of those around him. When I reached my 20’s that expectation to live a life of purpose began to deteriorate.  I was a drug addict and didn’t care about anything or anyone outside of myself.  I betrayed every single moral instilled in me growing up for the pitiful life I had made for myself.  Suicidal and depressed, losing job after job, selling my life to pawn shops, stealing, lying, cheating, scamming, you name it I wasn’t above anything when it came to getting a fix.  I had become something truly heinous and grotesque, a feral creature. For the first time I hit rock bottom and it hurt.  That’s when it happened.

On October 20th 2014 I found out about a program located in Los Angeles, the Liberty House of L&B Recovery systems.  Unaware of what would become of it and nowhere to turn, I packed what was left of my life and headed to the city of angels. The program quickly taught me about integrity and willingness to do the right thing. I would soon uncover many truths about my addiction and how it merely was a side effect of the real problem, me.  The program moved to Kentucky in February and I happily followed knowing how truly unique and special this place was.

Today, I wake up excited for the day ahead.  I work a great job to pay my own way in sobriety.  I have an amazing support group and am surrounded by friends I wouldn’t change for the world.  My relationship with my family continues to get better.   When my head hits the pillow at night I feel good about myself, knowing that I tried my absolute best to do the right thing that day,  knowing I don’t have to spend one more day feeling like I used to.  Thanks to L&B Recovery I have my life back and a future to look forward to and for this I will be forever grateful.  If you or a loved one is in the grips of addiction please know that there is help and authentic happiness is in reach. Contact the Liberty Ranch!

Join Us!

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“We are best friends not because we always want to be but because we’ve recognized that

our friendship is about something bigger than us!”

-Jamie

My best friend and I have been through it and back and we are sharing parts of our friendship testimony and hoping to inspire some of you that no matter how bad things can get sometimes, if your friendship is one of those things put together by God, there is nothing that can separate it. Join us! Were hoping to hear from you during this laid back call where we will talk, laugh, pray, strengthen our friendships, and hopefully build new ones.

The kick off is next Thursday, August 13th at 8pm.

Don’t forget to bring your friends! We cant wait to talk to you…

Muah

Great News!!

Hey guys!! If you follow me on any Social Media outlets you’ve already seen my announcement about the upcoming   “Pieces of Me Tour” I’m doing. I’m so excited!

Tour FlyerI’ll be speaking about my life and how different experiences I’ve had ultimately have made me who i am. It’s something ive known I was supposed to be doing for a while now and I’m not sitting on it anymore! I’ll be in a city near you soon so be on a look out for the dates. Muah!

Also… now is a good time to hit that like button on Facebook or Follow on Instagram. I usually get information posted there so much more quickly… Love ya

Sober Saturday: Deal with It

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I saw this the other day and thought “Wow!” It’s one of those simple truths that sounds so profound when you’re in a place of wanting to move forward but can’t figure out what’s holding you back….

 My WEAKNESSES?!

Yes, Jamie. Your weaknesses.

Just being completely honest about the situation I can think of times that I’ve done something wrong and I immediately think about or bring up all the good I do. I’ve identified that it is a defense mechanism because I dont want anyone to take anything from me. But the truth is, if I don’t deal with some of my flaws and improve I will be remembered for the bad instead if the good.

The same is true with addiction.

Unfortunately some of the BEST people struggle with addiction.

The greatest musicians, mothers and fathers, husbands or wives, etc have something that just literally drains the good out of them. I believe that is why so many are SO frustrated… Because you know what’s there. You know what’s being neglected and wasted for a terrible habit. If we are not careful to deal with our demons they will conquer us and all the good will be completely wasted.

So deal with the bad so you can enjoy the good!! Live a good life and leave a good legacy. It is definitely  a process but I think as long as we recognize that having some good doesn’t make the bad irrelevant and actually address those issues head on- we’ll be fiiiine!

Deal with it!

New Resources & Tools!!

Guess what you guys?

I’ve added helpful information to the  Resources & Tools page!! I’m so excited just knowing that I’ve got a pretty good list started on programs that could possibly help even just one person be restored from Addiction. It’s awesome!

I have to tell you that I was actually contacted by someone with this information which is RARE! Ms. Brenda, the Community Outreach Coordinator for the Alcohol Awareness Council, emailed me asking if I’d be interested in Resources to add to the list already listed on the blog. So of course I said YES! It is an act that I’ll forever be grateful for and the perfect example of someone with more information reaching out to help. I love it!

The sources that she sent me are Project Know and Heroin.net and both of them are absolutely perfect for anyone looking for help with addiction. You can even specify your location and get helpful information for the area you live in!! Please visit the Resources & Tools page and the websites listed if you are seeking help. It’s all there!!

*I currently live in New Orleans, LA and Ms. Brenda was nice enough to include the links for the New Orleans area. If you follow the hyperlinks above it will lead you straight to the New Orleans pages for each website.

Sober Saturday: Sick and Tired…

When I was younger I could go NON-STOP!

I had 3 jobs, I’d make sure I volunteered at least once a week at a shelter, did all kinds of things with my younger niece and little cousins, and I was apart of the Drama Ministry at my Church. (Great Commission Baptist Church, Fort Worth, TX)

I did many shows over the years but right now one in particular sticks out to me…

It was the Black History program and I was all set to be Fannie Lou Hamer. A civil rights and voting rights activists who was known for her straight forward approach and the quote

 “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired”

Have you ever been there?

Sick of your situation… so far on the edge that you can see the end but cant reach it?

I’ve been there.

I’ve stressed over and over my hate for drugs and alcohol and how it destroys people and their families and I know this is Sober Saturday but I also know that there are people out there like myself who don’t have a substance or alcohol abuse problem but are SICK AND TIRED!

Is it your job? Is it your lack of a job? Your family? Is it this messed up world we live in? (It’s bad out here ya’ll) Or is it in fact an addiction to something you NEVER thought would even cross your mind and now it’s all you think about?

What is it?

What are you tired of?

I love Ms. Hamer. I cant remember the complete monologue. I cant remember much about her. I don’t know if I should be typing Mrs instead of Ms. In fact, the only thing that I remember confidently is the quote that she’s known for so much that it is engraved on her tombstone. What I admire most about it is that despite her tiredness mentally, spiritually, and even physically she took action. And aggressively! Even as a Black woman in those days, with all she had against her to begin with she found ways to try to change her situation and the world around her.

What are you doing to change your situation? It’s not enough to just be tired. It’s not enough to just want change. I’m not going to go into the whole “you have to be strong”, “you have to push through” speech because we all know what we have to do OR better yet, we know what NOT to do. Don’t put yourself back in the same situation because it convenient. Don’t do that to yourself. Do what you gotta do. Get it together. No more sulking, being lazy, and JUST being tired.

Let Ms. Hamer inspire you and do it no matter how BIG the task seems.

DO SOMETHING!!

and then get some rest…

“You can pray until you faint but unless you get up and try to do something God is not going to put it in your lap”

-Fannie Lou Hamer

Rest In Peace