Sober Saturday: Sick and Tired…

When I was younger I could go NON-STOP!

I had 3 jobs, I’d make sure I volunteered at least once a week at a shelter, did all kinds of things with my younger niece and little cousins, and I was apart of the Drama Ministry at my Church. (Great Commission Baptist Church, Fort Worth, TX)

I did many shows over the years but right now one in particular sticks out to me…

It was the Black History program and I was all set to be Fannie Lou Hamer. A civil rights and voting rights activists who was known for her straight forward approach and the quote

 “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired”

Have you ever been there?

Sick of your situation… so far on the edge that you can see the end but cant reach it?

I’ve been there.

I’ve stressed over and over my hate for drugs and alcohol and how it destroys people and their families and I know this is Sober Saturday but I also know that there are people out there like myself who don’t have a substance or alcohol abuse problem but are SICK AND TIRED!

Is it your job? Is it your lack of a job? Your family? Is it this messed up world we live in? (It’s bad out here ya’ll) Or is it in fact an addiction to something you NEVER thought would even cross your mind and now it’s all you think about?

What is it?

What are you tired of?

I love Ms. Hamer. I cant remember the complete monologue. I cant remember much about her. I don’t know if I should be typing Mrs instead of Ms. In fact, the only thing that I remember confidently is the quote that she’s known for so much that it is engraved on her tombstone. What I admire most about it is that despite her tiredness mentally, spiritually, and even physically she took action. And aggressively! Even as a Black woman in those days, with all she had against her to begin with she found ways to try to change her situation and the world around her.

What are you doing to change your situation? It’s not enough to just be tired. It’s not enough to just want change. I’m not going to go into the whole “you have to be strong”, “you have to push through” speech because we all know what we have to do OR better yet, we know what NOT to do. Don’t put yourself back in the same situation because it convenient. Don’t do that to yourself. Do what you gotta do. Get it together. No more sulking, being lazy, and JUST being tired.

Let Ms. Hamer inspire you and do it no matter how BIG the task seems.

DO SOMETHING!!

and then get some rest…

“You can pray until you faint but unless you get up and try to do something God is not going to put it in your lap”

-Fannie Lou Hamer

Rest In Peace

Sober Saturday Anyone?

Its been a lil minute since I posted anything for Sober Saturday… But its also been a while since I’ve received any submissions. What do you guys think? Should I continue Sober Saturday here on the blog? Is this something that will inspire enough for someone to change? Let me know… I’ll be on Facebook and Instagram today (jamiedreamsbig.com and @jamiedreamsbig) so yall let me know. And of course, If YOU would like to share your story then email me at jamiedreamsbig@gmail.com.

If you've been restored dont keep it to yourself

If you’ve been restored dont keep it to yourself

You’re Invited!!

Hello my loves!! The next run for my non profit (still working out the kinks but I’m claiming it) the Now & Later Effect is November 1st in New Orleans, LA. I NEED YOU!! If you’d like to donate or volunteer please email me at jamiedreamsbig@gmail.com.

Please share this video as much as possible and let’s make this really big! MUAH!

Bee Behavior

Hello My Loves!! How are you? I’m fine… I’m sure you’re wondering what this post could possibly be about after reading the title. Lol. It’s okay… I’ll let you in on what “Bee Behavior” is or at least what it is pertaining to this post.

Okay so, the other day I was sitting somewhere looking out the window. I began to hear something tapping the window and quickly noticed that this something came with a buzz… It was a Bee.  I watched this Bee work himself (Yeah, it was a boy. Lol.) silly trying to get outside through the closed window. I mean… for a good 5 minutes this Bee was unstoppable!! He eventually drained himself so low that he sat on the window seal and gave up. I wanted to help him but I just got my first Bee sting a few weeks ago  and I ain’t trying to get another… But, something inside of me wanted him to find a way out.

I know this seems silly to some of you but my mind took off…

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I began to think about how we as humans sometimes have “Bee Behavior”… I’ve been there before; Stuck in the same place or situation trying the SAME thing over and over and over until eventually I’m  so drained that I give up. Sometimes we see exactly where we want or even NEED to be and when we make up our minds that we will get it a certain way, that (and ONLY that) is how we go about trying to attain that thing or goal.

You have to be willing to switch up your tactics and plans sometimes or you’ll sacrifice the dream because of the journey. This doesn’t mean that sometimes you wont have to be diligent and consistently keep reaching and trying and doing whatever you can to attain something’s… It just simply means that if you’ve been working towards something that you haven’t quite gotten yet, you need to assess the something about the situation. If you’re studying and you’ve always used a highlighter for memory and you realize that is no longer working- make some flash cards. It’s okay to mix it up a little… Pass the test! Even in relationships people like to switch it up- going different places, trying different things… Don’t be afraid to MIX IT UP!! Be creative.

You are NOT a Bee!!

Fall Poll

Fall is among us!! I’m ready to get back into doing OOTD’s and How To videos… So tell me, What is your favorite fall accessory?

 

 

Dream Wedding Day with Loverly

Hello my loves!!

 I’ve got a wonderful new post for you. Okay- first things first… Have you ever visited Lover.ly? Well if you’re engaged to be married or an avid Wedding Day dreamer like myself you will absolutely LOVE it!! The website has everything you will need for your wedding day including invitations, decor, Wedding dresses, shoes, real life Wedding pics for inspiration, and even some everyday items. I had the pleasure of putting together a few looks to go with 3 different settings that will be posted one by one over the next few days. First up is…

       RUSTIC CHIC

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Nature is the perfect back drop! Combine with soft, pretty colors, flowing fabrics, and  the gracefulness that every bride has on her wedding day to make it truly unforgettable. This look is all about simplicity, style, and class…

Rustic chic wedding

 Is Rustic Chic your style? Stay tuned for two more Dream Wedding Day looks and let me know what you think of this one.

     Details on this look are listed below

Rustic chic wedding by msjamieberry featuring Pelle Moda

All items were found on Lover.ly Go check em out…

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Sober Saturday: Keep Climbing

Hello my loves!!

HAPPY SOBER SATURDAY! (It’s been a while… It feels so good saying that)

Today I want to encourage you. I want to very quickly talk about what happens after you’ve kicked your addiction. You did it! You had your last drink, lit your last pipe, or shot up for the last time. You’re on a high but this one is self induced… So many people (including YOU) never thought you’d make it to this point and you have. (God is so perfect!) Naturally you want to celebrate a little and honey, I’m right there with you. I want to encourage you today though… Don’t stop there!! Keep climbing…

 

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So often after the addiction is gone the habits inherited BECAUSE of addiction stay. The manipulation, lies, guilt trips, victim mentality, and complacent attitudes will continue to live inside of you unless you do something to remove them. At this point you’ve climbed majority of the staircase and in order to live a life fulfilled you’ve gotta keep climbing. The people, jobs, etc you lost because of your addiction won’t automatically come back if the addiction is gone but you are the same person. We’ve got to constantly examine ourselves to see what we can improve. And don’t think you’ll live this clean, boring life for the rest if your life either. Find some good, clean fun!  You may be older than you were and feel like you wasted so much of your time while you were in your addiction but there is still plenty life in you and SO much to do, see, and experience. Go explore, join a support group, inspire someone, SEND IN A SOBER SATURDAY STORY! Lol.  Do something new… Whatever it is, keep climbing. It won’t always be easy… But ending your addiction wasn’t either and you’ve done it! You’re stronger than you think. Keep climbing!!

IM BAAAACK!!!!

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Hey my babies!!! I miss y’all…

It’s been a very long time since I’ve posted anything on the blog, YouTube, or the Facebook page. I’ve been battling something that took so much of my confidence in myself, confidence in my knowledge, and it almost stripped me if me. I’ve been affected by it physically, mentally, spiritually, and EVERY way I could think to say… Even now I’m fighting!

With the loss of confidence and drive and encouragement I just haven’t had it in me to post anything… But from the ashes I rise!! I’ve never been one to just roll over and accept defeat so I’ve chosen to get up and fight back. I have new weapons too!! I’ve learned a lot about myself, my relationships, my EVERYTHING, and God over the past two months and I’m so excited that I’m back and I’m stronger. Thanks for sticking with me and stay tuned for some great posts to come. There may be a few changes to the blog because I’ve changed… But they will enhance the jamiedreamsbig experience. MUAH! I love yoooou!

I’m doing so good I can’t stand it!

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Hello my loves!! I want to very quickly send some inspiration your way…

Back when I worked at the bank there was an absolutely adorable old (OLD) man that would come into the back pretty regularly. I believe it was more out of routine than anything and more than likely considered an outing for the day… We’d greet him and ask him how he was doing and his reply was “I’m doing so good I can’t stand it!” Lol.

So cute huh?!

It was then that I first realized that our days/lives are what we make them! Surely at his age he’d been through some things and maybe wasn’t in the best health… He made a decision to enjoy life anyway! And THAT is exactly what we have to do. Sure, things will go wrong. Life has it’s unexpected hills, valleys, twists, and turns… But you are alive… You still have life and that’s a lot more than some people can say!

Decide right now that you’re going to have a day SO good that you just cannot stand it! 

Muah!