I’m doing so good I can’t stand it!

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Hello my loves!! I want to very quickly send some inspiration your way…

Back when I worked at the bank there was an absolutely adorable old (OLD) man that would come into the back pretty regularly. I believe it was more out of routine than anything and more than likely considered an outing for the day… We’d greet him and ask him how he was doing and his reply was “I’m doing so good I can’t stand it!” Lol.

So cute huh?!

It was then that I first realized that our days/lives are what we make them! Surely at his age he’d been through some things and maybe wasn’t in the best health… He made a decision to enjoy life anyway! And THAT is exactly what we have to do. Sure, things will go wrong. Life has it’s unexpected hills, valleys, twists, and turns… But you are alive… You still have life and that’s a lot more than some people can say!

Decide right now that you’re going to have a day SO good that you just cannot stand it! 

Muah!

Sober Saturday: Progress Report

Hello!! I hope you’re all doing well today…

I started thinking about today’s post a few days ago while I was on a Facebook. It felt like I had stepped into a time machine seeing some of the same types of childish posts and pictures from the same people. Now, like I’ve said before, it’s not my place to judge anyone or their progress but it did make me think about my own and how important it is for us to check ourselves AND hold the people in our circle accountable. This is about growth!

Throughout school we’d get reports on the progress we’d made over a certain period of time… I’ve never studied education so I’m not positive how the process actually goes. I’m guessing that after putting together a curriculum for the year realistic goals are set for how much know leg or growth should be seen by a certain period of time. It may be different for each class or each student, etc… But a way to track progress is set. And then of course, you receive your progress report every six weeks or so to let you know “You’re doing great, keep it up” or “You gotta step it up… Here’s what you need to do to reach the next level.” In my home sometimes there would be a reward if things were REALLY good and some sort of consequence if not.

It’s got to be that same way in our lives y’all.

We have to set realistic goals for ourselves, do what it takes to reach them, and ever so often do a progress check on where we’re at and what we need to do to reach the next level. Everyone has their own pace and they are ultimately the only ones that know what is really going on in their lives but we also need to surround ourselves with people that will hold us accountable and not allow us to cheat ourselves out of the life we deserve. Be honest with yourself… If you know you’ve had 10 drinks instead of your 1 drink limit do what it takes to rectify the situation before it spirals out of control. You might not be able to stay as long as you normally do and it doesn’t matter that your friend from college can drink 20 drinks before feeling a buzz… That’s them! And this is about you checking yourself!! If you know the game room you normally go to socialize and just get out of the house has turned into the place you are now going to gamble when you’re stressed, FIX IT! Set goals, write to do lists, and include things like “where I want to be in 5 years,” etc… You may not reach that exact goal but your work towards SOMETHING could possibly get you everything you’ve always needed that you never even knew you wanted.

I go through my old notes, emails, work every once in a while (yes, I’m a pack rat) and I may not be where I thought I would be at this age but I’m SO glad I’m no where near where I used to be. My language, outlook, relationship with God, and relationship with my friend and family has changed drastically and these are the things that really matter. Sometimes it may take you looking back and going to some of the places you used to hang to see how far you’ve come. You’ll remember yourself doing things you would NEVER do today and if you are still into some of the same bad things it’ll be your opportunity to change that behavior.

SLOW PROGRESS IS STILL PROGRESS!!

Shine!

Hello My loves!!

We are all well into the week and If you’re like me, sometimes you are SO over going through the motions of life just to LIVE, and pay bills, and eat, etc… Well, PLEASE understand that none of this is in vain and you have to be willing to be “used” wherever you are.

Although I can VERY easily get discouraged sometimes (because ALL of my dreams are SO big!) My personal experience with this is a pretty cool one…

I’ve been working in hospitality for the last few years because I LOVE customer service jobs but every once in a while I not only get fed up with “my job”,  but really the fact that I’m not where I thought I would be at this age in my career. (Yeah, I’ve always had dreams bigger than life)With all of that being said, I’m not the type of person to come to work and do a horrible job because of my lack of satisfaction with how I think my life is supposed to play out as opposed to how God says it will. So, one night I was at work and something that NEVER happens happend. One of our guests truck was stolen. WHAT?! Yes, a whole truck. I felt so bad and so helpless for the guest because no matter how good my customer service skills are, there was nothing I could do in this situation. Im a “fixer” and I couldnt fix this… Determined to help, I did what I would do if the guest were my Mom or any of my Sisters and they were in a city they knew nothing about and now, dealing with the fact that their car was stolen. I tried to encourage her and shift her focus from this horrible thing to all of the GOOD possibilities that could come out of it. (A new, better truck, etc)  At the time I was reading “I Declare” by Joel Osteen and I made a copy of a page and wrote a note on it for he and left it and im sure some kind of snack (I love snacks!) for her.

Im a pretty cheesy person so I do things like leave notes and treats often but because of the work I do I CANT always openly let the guests know “I’ll pray about it” or that they should, or that God will surely fix it and has to have a bigger plan in mind. This situation was different… discernment stepped in and I could just feel that it was needed. I was unsure of how it would play out over time but since then I’ve stopped working this particular job regularly. (because my work in theater has picked up SO MUCH) But a few weeks ago SHE CALLED! I just so happen to be the person working that day (insane I KNOW) and I answered… She explained who she was and thanked me for all of the encouragement and said since then she has gotten A new, better truck! The one she actually wanted anyway! She went on to say how she’s gotten her whole family to start the book and that she thinks about the situation and how I tried to turn it around for her. This was exactly what I needed at the time… to hear that basically all of the blogging, and making videos, and time I put into uplifting others wasnt in vain.

Now its no secret that I think pretty highly of myself… I mean, what’s not to love?! Lol. But, I’m not writing this to brag on myself… I want to share how your willingness to be used for good and continue to shine even when you aint feeling it can help someone else. Shine consistently, shine bright, shine when you dont feel like it, shine when you really want to be working on Broadway instead of at a Hotel, SHINE!! You’ll get the desires of your heart and you can encourage others while you are on your journey.

So, yes it’s Thursday and this week may be dragging for you… continue to shine even when you dont feel like it… It may help someone else through something. Be willing to be used where you are and you’ll be blessed with more and more and more.

BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!!

If you’ve already liked the jamiedreamsbig.com Facebook page or follow me on Instagram then you’ve probably been waiting to see the BIG ANNOUNCEMENT I posted about last night. Well, wait no more… PRESS PLAY!

So what do you think?! Feel free to comment, email me, and SHARE this video. Thanks love…

Sober Saturday: Free. For real!

Hello my loves!! I hope all is well with you…

Okay so, I’m just gonna jump right in to today’s topic- FREEDOM!

I started thinking about how so many of us are free (from addiction, anger, lies, etc) but are still living our lives as captives to our old issues when I saw Afrobella’s (she’s a blogger. The BEST! Seriously tho) post on Facebook this past Thursday, June 19 also known to many (not enough) as Juneteenth. For those of you that don’t know, June 19, 1865 is the day the news that all slaves were free FINALLY reached the last of the slaves near Galveston, Tx. This day is now observed as a holiday in the hearts and minds (not Nationally… Yet!) and celebrated as the day their ancestors were officially freed.

 

Now, I know the history geeks are saying “huh?! That’s two years after the Emancipation Proclamation (the article in which Abraham Lincoln declared slaves were free)” And yes, you’re right it is! Almost two and a half years after the news had just reached the last slaves and even after this some people stuck around to see what “employment” would mean for them. They still felt a sense of fear or maybe even loyalty to the same people who had often times been SO horrible to them and their families even after they’d been set free.

 

Thinking about all if this of course I couldn’t help but realize the similarity to addiction.

 

So many people have been freed from the grasp of addiction but still operate as if they are addicted because it’s all they know. There is some fear of the unknown and temptation to stay addicted and continue to deal with their problems the way they’ve been doing it even though their addiction has been HORRIBLE to them, their families, and in their life overall. ADDICTION IS MORE THAN JUST THE ACT OF DOING THE DRUG, HAVING SEX, GAMBLING, ETC.  It’s also everything that comes with it! The lying, manipulating, cheating, stealing, etc. When the addiction is gone you have to take it a few steps further and work on dropping the old ways that helped your addiction otherwise, are you fully free? We are all concerned about what addiction does to the body physically… But if you drop the addiction and keep the old supporting ways of addiction (yes, this includes the old friends that are hating on your sobriety) will you get your family back? Your job? That feeling of being completely free?! You’ll be healthy and ALONE!

 

Take it a step further today and do what it takes to be FREE. For real!

 

 

Sober Saturday: Motivation

Hello my loves!!

It’s been such a long time since I’ve posted anything and I must say, I’m so grateful for my blog and my followers, that I feel guilty when I feel unmotivated especially for important posts like the ones I do on Sex Trafficking and of course, SOBER SATURDAY!

I sat in the bed last night and began to panic when I realized that it was Friday and I hadn’t even thought about what I’d post for Sober Saturday let alone be motivated or urged (by my own thoughts, others, God, circumstances, etc) to post something like I usually am. I refused to NOT have a post yet another Saturday! REFUSED!! It was then that it occurred to me that my responsibility despite my motivation (or lack thereof) was a post in itself.

Regardless of who you are and what you do motivation is something we all need. Sometimes it may seem people don’t know the answer or don’t understand simply to give you the opportunity to find the answer in yourself.

 

There are so many of you that may be new to sobriety or working towards sobriety, OR simply feeling unmotivated… We allow our jobs, situations,  family and friends, and even addiction, to occupy our lives so much that there’s nothing left. When it’s time to do something that is usually pretty simple we are so worn down that we don’t even have the energy or ,mind space for it.  This is exactly what has been happening with me and blogging- something that I LOVE doing and is good for me has taken a backseat because I’ve allowed other things to get in the front.

I know this post isn’t very long or necessarily full of profound things but I certainly hope it can be a jumping point for some of you to begin doing the things you love even when you may be low on energy or feeling down. Doing something you love and pushing through despite how you’re feeling may remind you why you began it in the first place and spark inspiration to continue. Whether it’s motivating yourself to stop using drugs, encouraging yourself to get up and go to the AA meeting, or pushing through the tiredness and writing a blogpost- ENCOURAGE YOURSELF and keep moving!! Think about some of the things you like to do that are good for you… Some of the things that can be cathartic and provoke self growth. Maybe you need to go through and do some prioritizing and ERASING things and/or people from your life than really don’t add anything positive to your personal growth. It can be hard work depending on how far down on the list you’ve allowed positivity and personal growth to sink. Do it anyway! The peace you’ll experience from a free mind (freedom from drugs, alcohol, negativity, stress, work, etc) will be SO worth it.

Reach for more… And while your hand is on the way up BELIEVE you’ll be bringing down the things you need to help you keep moving.

 

 

I thought from the age of about 5 that I would be a Movie Star at a young age and that people would watch me grow up on tv or in movies… The thing I absolutely love about jamiedreamsbig.com is that you guys are able to witness my growth as a young adult as it happens. No, it’s not in the way that I thought it would be. But, it’s in a more real, up close and personal kind of way. I’m as honest as I can be with y’all and I genuinely PRAY and hope that my blog inspires you in some way.

 

Thanks to all of my new followers!! I see ya…

And thanks to the ones who have been with me from the beginning… I appreciate all the love. I LOVE the love.

 

You WILL hear from/see me soon! MUAH!

 

Spring Fashion: Floral & Leopard Print

 

Hey guys!! I hope you like the new video… The look is pretty much made up of basics that I’ve thrown together with fun prints to make a cute spring outfit. Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel and be sure to check out the deets on this look below. MUAH!

 

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Okay… Here goes…

the Turban is actually a skirt : ) I got it from Bloomin Deals thrift store on Freret St here in New Orleans

the Leopard print bandeau is American Apparel

the skirt is a maxi dress from Forever21

the blue shirt is from Old Navy

(Began its life with sleeves and I tied it at the back for the crop top effect)
And the sandals are yet another pair from Urban Outfitters

Go check out my YouTube channel y’all and look out for new videos…

JNB

Sober Saturday: Bumpy Roads

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Hello my loves! HAPPY SOBER SATURDAY!!!!

I just wanted to drop a quick line to let you know that relapse is ONLY a bump in the road., something that slows you down en route to your final destination- Freedom from Addiction. At times the road to addiction will be hard and you just might stumble and fall. What you’ve got to remember is not to allow the guilt from relapsing take you into a downward spiral of more relapsing. I think guilt is one of the things that can seem so hopeless at times about addiction because you’re trying to deal with things the way you’re used to so you relapse… And the guilt from relapsing makes you want to use, drink, etc more just to deal with what you’ve done…. And that is where the downward spiral can begin…

Do you stop and park at speed bumps when you’re driving? No!

Don’t let this be any different…

If you fall just get up and keep moving…

And yes, it IS a lot easier said than done. But you’re capable of beating your addiction.

Get up and keep moving…

You’re stronger than your addiction will allow you to believe.

Keep Moving…

You’re smarter than your addiction will ever give you the opportunity to show.

You’re capable.

you are loved.

and you WILL beat your addiction.

Just keep moving!!

MUAH, JNB

 

 

Spring has Sprung OOTD

 

Spring is finally here!! Here’s my first OOTD of the season…

 

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I hope you guys like this look… It was so comfy and cute. I was actually told by an artist “You look like something I would paint… You look like a painting”… She was SO sweet! Thankfully, before I left for my night out I had already filmed this vid.

If you aren’t already subscribed to my YouTube channel DO IT NOW! Lol. And don’t forget to follow the blog! MUAH

He lives…

 

Happy Easter y’all!! This is one of my favorite songs about the death and most importantly resurrection of Jesus… It’s an old song I remember listening to and trying to figure out the melodies when I was in High School. (Y’all know I used to sing a lil bit… Lol) No matter how old it is it always takes me to a place of reflection of ALL God has done for me AND extreme great fullness for the life he gave in order for me to live. Even if his amazing grace ends today- he’s done enough and I will forever love him and live for him. Listen to the song and FEEL the song…. Have fun coloring eggs and spending money on the Easter Bunny but remember why Easter is a special Day. He lives!!

 

…5The angel said to the women, “Do not be afraid; for I know that you are looking for Jesus who has been crucified. 6″He is not here, for He has risen, just as He said. Come, see the place where He was lying. 7″Go quickly and tell His disciples that He has risen from the dead; and behold, He is going ahead of you into Galilee, there you will see Him; behold, I have told you…

      Matthew 28:5-7