Fall is among us!! I’m ready to get back into doing OOTD’s and How To videos… So tell me, What is your favorite fall accessory?
Hello my loves!!
I’ve got a wonderful new post for you. Okay- first things first… Have you ever visited Lover.ly? Well if you’re engaged to be married or an avid Wedding Day dreamer like myself you will absolutely LOVE it!! The website has everything you will need for your wedding day including invitations, decor, Wedding dresses, shoes, real life Wedding pics for inspiration, and even some everyday items. I had the pleasure of putting together a few looks to go with 3 different settings that will be posted one by one over the next few days. First up is…
Nature is the perfect back drop! Combine with soft, pretty colors, flowing fabrics, and the gracefulness that every bride has on her wedding day to make it truly unforgettable. This look is all about simplicity, style, and class…
Is Rustic Chic your style? Stay tuned for two more Dream Wedding Day looks and let me know what you think of this one.
Details on this look are listed below
All items were found on Lover.ly Go check em out…
Hello my loves!!
HAPPY SOBER SATURDAY! (It’s been a while… It feels so good saying that)
Today I want to encourage you. I want to very quickly talk about what happens after you’ve kicked your addiction. You did it! You had your last drink, lit your last pipe, or shot up for the last time. You’re on a high but this one is self induced… So many people (including YOU) never thought you’d make it to this point and you have. (God is so perfect!) Naturally you want to celebrate a little and honey, I’m right there with you. I want to encourage you today though… Don’t stop there!! Keep climbing…
So often after the addiction is gone the habits inherited BECAUSE of addiction stay. The manipulation, lies, guilt trips, victim mentality, and complacent attitudes will continue to live inside of you unless you do something to remove them. At this point you’ve climbed majority of the staircase and in order to live a life fulfilled you’ve gotta keep climbing. The people, jobs, etc you lost because of your addiction won’t automatically come back if the addiction is gone but you are the same person. We’ve got to constantly examine ourselves to see what we can improve. And don’t think you’ll live this clean, boring life for the rest if your life either. Find some good, clean fun! You may be older than you were and feel like you wasted so much of your time while you were in your addiction but there is still plenty life in you and SO much to do, see, and experience. Go explore, join a support group, inspire someone, SEND IN A SOBER SATURDAY STORY! Lol. Do something new… Whatever it is, keep climbing. It won’t always be easy… But ending your addiction wasn’t either and you’ve done it! You’re stronger than you think. Keep climbing!!
Hey my babies!!! I miss y’all…
It’s been a very long time since I’ve posted anything on the blog, YouTube, or the Facebook page. I’ve been battling something that took so much of my confidence in myself, confidence in my knowledge, and it almost stripped me if me. I’ve been affected by it physically, mentally, spiritually, and EVERY way I could think to say… Even now I’m fighting!
With the loss of confidence and drive and encouragement I just haven’t had it in me to post anything… But from the ashes I rise!! I’ve never been one to just roll over and accept defeat so I’ve chosen to get up and fight back. I have new weapons too!! I’ve learned a lot about myself, my relationships, my EVERYTHING, and God over the past two months and I’m so excited that I’m back and I’m stronger. Thanks for sticking with me and stay tuned for some great posts to come. There may be a few changes to the blog because I’ve changed… But they will enhance the jamiedreamsbig experience. MUAH! I love yoooou!
Hello my loves!! I want to very quickly send some inspiration your way…
Back when I worked at the bank there was an absolutely adorable old (OLD) man that would come into the back pretty regularly. I believe it was more out of routine than anything and more than likely considered an outing for the day… We’d greet him and ask him how he was doing and his reply was “I’m doing so good I can’t stand it!” Lol.
So cute huh?!
It was then that I first realized that our days/lives are what we make them! Surely at his age he’d been through some things and maybe wasn’t in the best health… He made a decision to enjoy life anyway! And THAT is exactly what we have to do. Sure, things will go wrong. Life has it’s unexpected hills, valleys, twists, and turns… But you are alive… You still have life and that’s a lot more than some people can say!
Decide right now that you’re going to have a day SO good that you just cannot stand it!
Hello!! I hope you’re all doing well today…
I started thinking about today’s post a few days ago while I was on a Facebook. It felt like I had stepped into a time machine seeing some of the same types of childish posts and pictures from the same people. Now, like I’ve said before, it’s not my place to judge anyone or their progress but it did make me think about my own and how important it is for us to check ourselves AND hold the people in our circle accountable. This is about growth!
Throughout school we’d get reports on the progress we’d made over a certain period of time… I’ve never studied education so I’m not positive how the process actually goes. I’m guessing that after putting together a curriculum for the year realistic goals are set for how much know leg or growth should be seen by a certain period of time. It may be different for each class or each student, etc… But a way to track progress is set. And then of course, you receive your progress report every six weeks or so to let you know “You’re doing great, keep it up” or “You gotta step it up… Here’s what you need to do to reach the next level.” In my home sometimes there would be a reward if things were REALLY good and some sort of consequence if not.
It’s got to be that same way in our lives y’all.
We have to set realistic goals for ourselves, do what it takes to reach them, and ever so often do a progress check on where we’re at and what we need to do to reach the next level. Everyone has their own pace and they are ultimately the only ones that know what is really going on in their lives but we also need to surround ourselves with people that will hold us accountable and not allow us to cheat ourselves out of the life we deserve. Be honest with yourself… If you know you’ve had 10 drinks instead of your 1 drink limit do what it takes to rectify the situation before it spirals out of control. You might not be able to stay as long as you normally do and it doesn’t matter that your friend from college can drink 20 drinks before feeling a buzz… That’s them! And this is about you checking yourself!! If you know the game room you normally go to socialize and just get out of the house has turned into the place you are now going to gamble when you’re stressed, FIX IT! Set goals, write to do lists, and include things like “where I want to be in 5 years,” etc… You may not reach that exact goal but your work towards SOMETHING could possibly get you everything you’ve always needed that you never even knew you wanted.
I go through my old notes, emails, work every once in a while (yes, I’m a pack rat) and I may not be where I thought I would be at this age but I’m SO glad I’m no where near where I used to be. My language, outlook, relationship with God, and relationship with my friend and family has changed drastically and these are the things that really matter. Sometimes it may take you looking back and going to some of the places you used to hang to see how far you’ve come. You’ll remember yourself doing things you would NEVER do today and if you are still into some of the same bad things it’ll be your opportunity to change that behavior.
SLOW PROGRESS IS STILL PROGRESS!!
Hello My loves!!
We are all well into the week and If you’re like me, sometimes you are SO over going through the motions of life just to LIVE, and pay bills, and eat, etc… Well, PLEASE understand that none of this is in vain and you have to be willing to be “used” wherever you are.
Although I can VERY easily get discouraged sometimes (because ALL of my dreams are SO big!) My personal experience with this is a pretty cool one…
I’ve been working in hospitality for the last few years because I LOVE customer service jobs but every once in a while I not only get fed up with “my job”, but really the fact that I’m not where I thought I would be at this age in my career. (Yeah, I’ve always had dreams bigger than life)With all of that being said, I’m not the type of person to come to work and do a horrible job because of my lack of satisfaction with how I think my life is supposed to play out as opposed to how God says it will. So, one night I was at work and something that NEVER happens happend. One of our guests truck was stolen. WHAT?! Yes, a whole truck. I felt so bad and so helpless for the guest because no matter how good my customer service skills are, there was nothing I could do in this situation. Im a “fixer” and I couldnt fix this… Determined to help, I did what I would do if the guest were my Mom or any of my Sisters and they were in a city they knew nothing about and now, dealing with the fact that their car was stolen. I tried to encourage her and shift her focus from this horrible thing to all of the GOOD possibilities that could come out of it. (A new, better truck, etc) At the time I was reading “I Declare” by Joel Osteen and I made a copy of a page and wrote a note on it for he and left it and im sure some kind of snack (I love snacks!) for her.
Im a pretty cheesy person so I do things like leave notes and treats often but because of the work I do I CANT always openly let the guests know “I’ll pray about it” or that they should, or that God will surely fix it and has to have a bigger plan in mind. This situation was different… discernment stepped in and I could just feel that it was needed. I was unsure of how it would play out over time but since then I’ve stopped working this particular job regularly. (because my work in theater has picked up SO MUCH) But a few weeks ago SHE CALLED! I just so happen to be the person working that day (insane I KNOW) and I answered… She explained who she was and thanked me for all of the encouragement and said since then she has gotten A new, better truck! The one she actually wanted anyway! She went on to say how she’s gotten her whole family to start the book and that she thinks about the situation and how I tried to turn it around for her. This was exactly what I needed at the time… to hear that basically all of the blogging, and making videos, and time I put into uplifting others wasnt in vain.
Now its no secret that I think pretty highly of myself… I mean, what’s not to love?! Lol. But, I’m not writing this to brag on myself… I want to share how your willingness to be used for good and continue to shine even when you aint feeling it can help someone else. Shine consistently, shine bright, shine when you dont feel like it, shine when you really want to be working on Broadway instead of at a Hotel, SHINE!! You’ll get the desires of your heart and you can encourage others while you are on your journey.
So, yes it’s Thursday and this week may be dragging for you… continue to shine even when you dont feel like it… It may help someone else through something. Be willing to be used where you are and you’ll be blessed with more and more and more.
If you’ve already liked the jamiedreamsbig.com Facebook page or follow me on Instagram then you’ve probably been waiting to see the BIG ANNOUNCEMENT I posted about last night. Well, wait no more… PRESS PLAY!
So what do you think?! Feel free to comment, email me, and SHARE this video. Thanks love…
Hello my loves!! I hope all is well with you…
Okay so, I’m just gonna jump right in to today’s topic- FREEDOM!
I started thinking about how so many of us are free (from addiction, anger, lies, etc) but are still living our lives as captives to our old issues when I saw Afrobella’s (she’s a blogger. The BEST! Seriously tho) post on Facebook this past Thursday, June 19 also known to many (not enough) as Juneteenth. For those of you that don’t know, June 19, 1865 is the day the news that all slaves were free FINALLY reached the last of the slaves near Galveston, Tx. This day is now observed as a holiday in the hearts and minds (not Nationally… Yet!) and celebrated as the day their ancestors were officially freed.
Now, I know the history geeks are saying “huh?! That’s two years after the Emancipation Proclamation (the article in which Abraham Lincoln declared slaves were free)” And yes, you’re right it is! Almost two and a half years after the news had just reached the last slaves and even after this some people stuck around to see what “employment” would mean for them. They still felt a sense of fear or maybe even loyalty to the same people who had often times been SO horrible to them and their families even after they’d been set free.
Thinking about all if this of course I couldn’t help but realize the similarity to addiction.
So many people have been freed from the grasp of addiction but still operate as if they are addicted because it’s all they know. There is some fear of the unknown and temptation to stay addicted and continue to deal with their problems the way they’ve been doing it even though their addiction has been HORRIBLE to them, their families, and in their life overall. ADDICTION IS MORE THAN JUST THE ACT OF DOING THE DRUG, HAVING SEX, GAMBLING, ETC. It’s also everything that comes with it! The lying, manipulating, cheating, stealing, etc. When the addiction is gone you have to take it a few steps further and work on dropping the old ways that helped your addiction otherwise, are you fully free? We are all concerned about what addiction does to the body physically… But if you drop the addiction and keep the old supporting ways of addiction (yes, this includes the old friends that are hating on your sobriety) will you get your family back? Your job? That feeling of being completely free?! You’ll be healthy and ALONE!
Take it a step further today and do what it takes to be FREE. For real!
Hello my loves!!
It’s been such a long time since I’ve posted anything and I must say, I’m so grateful for my blog and my followers, that I feel guilty when I feel unmotivated especially for important posts like the ones I do on Sex Trafficking and of course, SOBER SATURDAY!
I sat in the bed last night and began to panic when I realized that it was Friday and I hadn’t even thought about what I’d post for Sober Saturday let alone be motivated or urged (by my own thoughts, others, God, circumstances, etc) to post something like I usually am. I refused to NOT have a post yet another Saturday! REFUSED!! It was then that it occurred to me that my responsibility despite my motivation (or lack thereof) was a post in itself.
Regardless of who you are and what you do motivation is something we all need. Sometimes it may seem people don’t know the answer or don’t understand simply to give you the opportunity to find the answer in yourself.
There are so many of you that may be new to sobriety or working towards sobriety, OR simply feeling unmotivated… We allow our jobs, situations, family and friends, and even addiction, to occupy our lives so much that there’s nothing left. When it’s time to do something that is usually pretty simple we are so worn down that we don’t even have the energy or ,mind space for it. This is exactly what has been happening with me and blogging- something that I LOVE doing and is good for me has taken a backseat because I’ve allowed other things to get in the front.
I know this post isn’t very long or necessarily full of profound things but I certainly hope it can be a jumping point for some of you to begin doing the things you love even when you may be low on energy or feeling down. Doing something you love and pushing through despite how you’re feeling may remind you why you began it in the first place and spark inspiration to continue. Whether it’s motivating yourself to stop using drugs, encouraging yourself to get up and go to the AA meeting, or pushing through the tiredness and writing a blogpost- ENCOURAGE YOURSELF and keep moving!! Think about some of the things you like to do that are good for you… Some of the things that can be cathartic and provoke self growth. Maybe you need to go through and do some prioritizing and ERASING things and/or people from your life than really don’t add anything positive to your personal growth. It can be hard work depending on how far down on the list you’ve allowed positivity and personal growth to sink. Do it anyway! The peace you’ll experience from a free mind (freedom from drugs, alcohol, negativity, stress, work, etc) will be SO worth it.
Reach for more… And while your hand is on the way up BELIEVE you’ll be bringing down the things you need to help you keep moving.
I thought from the age of about 5 that I would be a Movie Star at a young age and that people would watch me grow up on tv or in movies… The thing I absolutely love about jamiedreamsbig.com is that you guys are able to witness my growth as a young adult as it happens. No, it’s not in the way that I thought it would be. But, it’s in a more real, up close and personal kind of way. I’m as honest as I can be with y’all and I genuinely PRAY and hope that my blog inspires you in some way.
Thanks to all of my new followers!! I see ya…
And thanks to the ones who have been with me from the beginning… I appreciate all the love. I LOVE the love.
You WILL hear from/see me soon! MUAH!